Ian WhiteWhat we (blokes) are doing wrong.
September 23rd 2006 00:05
I recently came across the profile of a slightly angry young Australian woman living in Japan who had a few things to say about the men on RSVP, their profiles and their habits. They aren’t particularly nice, but after reading her profile to find out what her thoughts are, it seems she has a good point. She is actually looking for a pen friend herself, nothing more. But she makes a few good observations about the way men on the site behave toward her, and it’s little more than predictable and disrespectful.
Apparently, we all have the same profile. We all claim to be “down-to-earth”, which she says comes across as tiring after reading it for the umpteenth time. We all think we’re funny too, also not such a great trait apparently. I myself must admit that I had these two things in my profile, but quickly changed it after she set me straight. We’re also predictable. We all send the same responses through, they consistently say the same things and that points to the fact that we lack originality. That said, I think that “Down To Earth” is probably the most widely used term across both male and female profiles. Trust me, women use it just as much as men. Also, everyone loves a laugh. No kidding.
Men don’t pay attention to what Women have actually written on their profiles. The girl in question actually has in BIG BOLD CAPITALS at the bottom of her profile – DON’T CONTACT ME IF YOU ARE OTSIDE MY AGE RANGE etc. Still she routinely receives kisses from men 20 years older than she is, which is a fair way outside her age range and her advice has obviously been ignored or simply not read. This again, goes both ways. My personal profile states that if you are from interstate or overseas, I will not bother returning your email/kiss. Still I receive contact from Interstate and Overseas. Again, not exclusive to men.
The girl in question has a very attractive photo posted to the site and although this is a good start, I would have assumed that the details of the profile would have made it pretty clear. Are some men out there not putting any effort in whatsoever, just randomly emailing/kissing anybody who they even remotely like the look of? What would be the point of that? Surely at least they should at least fit into the women’s age range? How Stupid Is That? The answer to that question is – Very.
Does anybody really think that this spamming method is going to work? Do these people not understand that by doing this they are wrecking it for all the decent blokes out there trying hard to meet someone? If you are after an ego boost, or just after a root, dating sites are not the right places for you. I am sure that you will not struggle to find the equivalent in an “adult” contact site such as Adult Friend Finder, Horny Matches or The Love Club. Please leave the non-sexual sites alone, you are not welcome there - ask the women whose inboxes you are overloading with your disingenuous bullshit. And then ask the blokes who are struggling because of your selfishness. You would be better off spending your money in a brothel, because at least the both of you are under no false pretenses as to what is going to happen. The single women don’t need your fake contact and the single genuine men need you out of the way.
So instead of just taking in what she said in her profile, I thought it would make some good reading to actually ask her what she thinks we as men can do to help ourselves improve our online image. How do we become original enough to encourage contact rather than needing to bombard people with a barrage of kisses to profiles we haven’t even read? (Another thing she says men do. I thought this one was a little far fetched, but she has the bulging inbox to prove it, so rest assured that while you and I think this is as stupid as it gets, it’s happening out there). Well, I sent her an email – it cost me one of my precious, expensive stamps and guess what? She didn’t respond. Haha! I guess I should have seen that coming.
Apparently, we all have the same profile. We all claim to be “down-to-earth”, which she says comes across as tiring after reading it for the umpteenth time. We all think we’re funny too, also not such a great trait apparently. I myself must admit that I had these two things in my profile, but quickly changed it after she set me straight. We’re also predictable. We all send the same responses through, they consistently say the same things and that points to the fact that we lack originality. That said, I think that “Down To Earth” is probably the most widely used term across both male and female profiles. Trust me, women use it just as much as men. Also, everyone loves a laugh. No kidding.
Does anybody really think that this spamming method is going to work? Do these people not understand that by doing this they are wrecking it for all the decent blokes out there trying hard to meet someone? If you are after an ego boost, or just after a root, dating sites are not the right places for you. I am sure that you will not struggle to find the equivalent in an “adult” contact site such as Adult Friend Finder, Horny Matches or The Love Club. Please leave the non-sexual sites alone, you are not welcome there - ask the women whose inboxes you are overloading with your disingenuous bullshit. And then ask the blokes who are struggling because of your selfishness. You would be better off spending your money in a brothel, because at least the both of you are under no false pretenses as to what is going to happen. The single women don’t need your fake contact and the single genuine men need you out of the way.
So instead of just taking in what she said in her profile, I thought it would make some good reading to actually ask her what she thinks we as men can do to help ourselves improve our online image. How do we become original enough to encourage contact rather than needing to bombard people with a barrage of kisses to profiles we haven’t even read? (Another thing she says men do. I thought this one was a little far fetched, but she has the bulging inbox to prove it, so rest assured that while you and I think this is as stupid as it gets, it’s happening out there). Well, I sent her an email – it cost me one of my precious, expensive stamps and guess what? She didn’t respond. Haha! I guess I should have seen that coming.
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