Ian WhiteEveryone Is Online Dating
October 17th 2006 12:38
I’m not 100% sure, but I think everyone is on RSVP. One of the various reasons I was able to begin this “Perennial Bachelor” Project was because a friend of mine found a great woman using RSVP. It gave me courage. Of course, he didn’t tell me himself, his sister (lets call her Gloria) filled in the gaps for me. She also let me know that their mother is also on the site, and has also had some success. Gloria was reluctant but finally admitted that she (and their sister too) has an active profile as well.
Gwen obviously has her profile up there. Her two housemates and some of their other friends do too. They talk about it all the time. They tell their friends about it, and they all talk about it together. They go on dates and they tell each other all the good and bad things that happen to them out dating. I love being there to listen to what they talk about. Hearing these stories about blokes and the things they say and do out on dates is genuinely funny and really very enlightening. They can be mercilessly harsh, about themselves, about each other and about everyone in between. It’s hilarious. They have nicknames for all of their dates and they openly laugh about each other’s various stories. I wonder what my nickname is? It probably has something to do with a shirt I wore the first time I went to Gwen’s house to pick her up for our date. If not, I’ll be very surprised if it isn’t something like “Mr. Wonderful”.
I love hearing them talk about these things, its an honest version of What Women Think. They are very observant, very sharp and they watch how Gwen and I react to one another, bag us for being overly soppy or sappy and saying cute little “early in the relationship” type things to each other. They have made me become a little more aware of what I am saying, because I know that they will remember a lot of it and use it against me down the track. (Like that Mr. Wonderful comment I made earlier)
They don’t seem to take the whole dating/internet thing too seriously, which is enlightening. I had a vision of people at home checking their contacts in a rather business-like manner, comparing their suitability and ordering them on a scale for things like compatibility (that word always makes me think of Dexter from Perfect Match) and attractiveness. Thankfully I was wrong about that. Sure, they check the profiles for things that match, but they are more open to things that don’t match than I expected. They know that it’s good to have a lot of similar interests, but just as good to have a few that arent.
Online dating offers the ability to try to find that mythical “Perfect Match”, but obviously a lot is still left up to that certain unexplainable “chemistry” that you either have or don’t have, and that can’t be found in any list of interests. You could line up a list of exactly what you want in a partner, from their sporting interests to fashion, politics, religion, food, movies, books, whatever, but when you finally find and meet that exact match, the chemistry just might not be there and there isn’t a thing you can do about it except get over it, go back to drawing board and start all over again – next time hopefully with expectations that are a little more realistic.
Gwen obviously has her profile up there. Her two housemates and some of their other friends do too. They talk about it all the time. They tell their friends about it, and they all talk about it together. They go on dates and they tell each other all the good and bad things that happen to them out dating. I love being there to listen to what they talk about. Hearing these stories about blokes and the things they say and do out on dates is genuinely funny and really very enlightening. They can be mercilessly harsh, about themselves, about each other and about everyone in between. It’s hilarious. They have nicknames for all of their dates and they openly laugh about each other’s various stories. I wonder what my nickname is? It probably has something to do with a shirt I wore the first time I went to Gwen’s house to pick her up for our date. If not, I’ll be very surprised if it isn’t something like “Mr. Wonderful”.
Online dating offers the ability to try to find that mythical “Perfect Match”, but obviously a lot is still left up to that certain unexplainable “chemistry” that you either have or don’t have, and that can’t be found in any list of interests. You could line up a list of exactly what you want in a partner, from their sporting interests to fashion, politics, religion, food, movies, books, whatever, but when you finally find and meet that exact match, the chemistry just might not be there and there isn’t a thing you can do about it except get over it, go back to drawing board and start all over again – next time hopefully with expectations that are a little more realistic.
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Comment by Single Bloke
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Yes I have tried using online dating services - a few of my other posts have been about that very topic - go back and have a read as there is some good info on dating sites in some of the older posts.
I will also be continuing the series I have now come to call the "Perennial Bachelor Project". I will have a post on some of the comparisons between the top few dating sites up here in the next few days too.
Cheers!
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Comment by Anonymous
great news for all youz RSVP people,
the RSVP site has been taken ove by TheAge group (whatever media group that is) and THEY NO LONGER CHECK if your profile contains your email (hidden) or your phone #.
The old RSVP site was only "reviewed" by a human bein one update out of two. (yes I tested it, I wrote horrible stuff about the RSVP staff and wrote my phone number and it PASSES THROUGH once out of two.).. but it looks like you dont have to bother anymore. They just don't check very often at ALL.
so go for your lives people. RSVP.Com.au is ESPECIALLY SLACK at reviewing on public holidays and during XMAS break. (short on staff I guess
trust me. give it a try. you CAN encode your direct contact in RSVP
another good trick is to use CALC.EXE and convert your phone number in HEX , then use that number as the NAME OF YOUR PHOTO , ex : "my photo 18F0221B.JPEG" (-no it's not my number MORON)
ok so you end up with a nerdy girlfriend that likes twisted puzzles, but hey
good luck soldier.
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