Ian WhiteEthically Wrong or Morally Wrong?
September 20th 2006 23:19
I watched one of my favourite movies again recently, a quirky little number called Election. It has Reece Witherspoon and Mathew Broderick in it, among others, and it is a surprising, biting black comedy set around a high school and its election for a school president. It covers, as a major underlying theme of the movie, the difference between Morals and Ethics. I love this. Get one of your friends to try to explain to you the difference between ethics and morals. Its like trying to nail down a good explanation for “irony” without using google - not easily done in one sentence.
Anyway, it struck a bit of a chord because a friend of mine (lets call her Gwen) thinks that what I am doing (The Project) is kind of morally wrong. I'm not sure that I agree, but I am as yet undecided. I think she was trying to put me off because she is writing a book on a very similar topic and she seemed bitter that I had the same idea. I have explained to Gwen that with this project there are several rules of conduct which I will adhere to. I intend on telling each of the women I meet about the project, on the first date. While I am doing this project for the results which I wish to be able to turn into a series of witty and urbane articles for the blog (such as this one), I am also in the market to meet someone. So the date will understand that she may end up being written about (actually, she will definitely be written about) she will also understand that names will be changed to protect the guilty and I will not be providing a critique or list of things for her to improve upon at the end of it. Rather, I wish to find out what blokes are doing wrong out there. What they are doing right would be nice to hear too.
As it goes, I'm yet to work out when I intend to tell the date, but I think it may be when we actually meet, to allow the lass to back out if she wishes. Seeing as how it would seem that I may be an attractive enough prospect for her to consider going out with in the first place, I cant imagine that will happen. Either way, I'm paying for dinner and she will have gotten all dressed up, so she may as well stay. I'm a good conversationalist, I'm sure she wont be bored. The other option is to tell her over the course of the ensuing emails that are sent back and forth after First Contact, or when one of us gets the courage to actually call the other. I guess I can just reassure them that it will be a genuine date – at least she can be sure I'll be paying attention to her...it might make a good story.
And yes, I really do want to meet someone. I just want to catalog the experiences I have along the way, to make sure that using these dating sites/singles meeting methods can be fruitful and a positive way to meet people. I am not here to take advantage of anybody, but to provide a realistic view of what the average Australian male can expect if he puts himself online in the search for love. Thats not wrong is it?
Gwen thinks that if I continue with the project and actually get to go on a date, then telling them about the project will be my first mistake. I disagree, but I would like further feedback. Should I tell the dates I go on? Will I be able to reassure them that its not just an interview for the blog, but that I am there as a genuinely interested male suitor? What if it doesn't pan out, should I be obliged not to include them as an episode (or two, depending on how disastrously it goes)? Let me know what you think. Cheers.
By the way, www.dictionary.com defines Morals as conforming to standards of what is right or just in behavior, or arising from conscience or the sense of right and wrong and Ethics as the rules of conduct recognized in respect to a particular class of human actions or a particular group, culture, etc.: medical ethics; Christian ethics. It also defines Irony as an expression or utterance marked by a deliberate contrast between apparent and intended meaning. Good one.Your text goes here
Anyway, it struck a bit of a chord because a friend of mine (lets call her Gwen) thinks that what I am doing (The Project) is kind of morally wrong. I'm not sure that I agree, but I am as yet undecided. I think she was trying to put me off because she is writing a book on a very similar topic and she seemed bitter that I had the same idea. I have explained to Gwen that with this project there are several rules of conduct which I will adhere to. I intend on telling each of the women I meet about the project, on the first date. While I am doing this project for the results which I wish to be able to turn into a series of witty and urbane articles for the blog (such as this one), I am also in the market to meet someone. So the date will understand that she may end up being written about (actually, she will definitely be written about) she will also understand that names will be changed to protect the guilty and I will not be providing a critique or list of things for her to improve upon at the end of it. Rather, I wish to find out what blokes are doing wrong out there. What they are doing right would be nice to hear too.
Gwen thinks that if I continue with the project and actually get to go on a date, then telling them about the project will be my first mistake. I disagree, but I would like further feedback. Should I tell the dates I go on? Will I be able to reassure them that its not just an interview for the blog, but that I am there as a genuinely interested male suitor? What if it doesn't pan out, should I be obliged not to include them as an episode (or two, depending on how disastrously it goes)? Let me know what you think. Cheers.
By the way, www.dictionary.com defines Morals as conforming to standards of what is right or just in behavior, or arising from conscience or the sense of right and wrong and Ethics as the rules of conduct recognized in respect to a particular class of human actions or a particular group, culture, etc.: medical ethics; Christian ethics. It also defines Irony as an expression or utterance marked by a deliberate contrast between apparent and intended meaning. Good one.Your text goes here
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Comment by Justin
As for telling the dates about your project, I doubt any of them will stick around - it just seems to weird, especially on a first date. Nevertheless, good for the project!
Comment by singlebloke